I was talking to another mom at a get together and we started talking about what we did. She looked at me (with a little bit of sadness in her eyes) and said, “So you get to stay home? I wish I could stay at home with my kids…”
This wasn’t the first time a working mom has said this to me and it was a good reality check. Has anyone ever said that to you?
You GET to stay at home?
I’m guilty of not being as grateful as I should be for being able to stay at home. Some days I look at the laundry overflowing from the basket, the dishes that need unloaded, the oatmeal that’s stuck on the table, and I wonder, will I ever get a break? Has this thought ever crossed your mind?
You can’t wait for your husband to get home so you can download your day on him. You are constantly checking the clock and thinking he better not be late tonight! If he only knew the day I had…
Once he comes in the door you begin to tell him all about how bad the kids were that day or how you weren’t able to get anything accomplished on your to-do list. That’s why the dirty dishes are still in the sink; the laundry needs to be run again because you forgot to put it in the dryer, and why you are still haven’t showered. (Can anybody relate?)
I wonder what my husband thinks- he goes to work all day and then hears me grumbling or complaining when my dream job was to stay at home.
When he hears me complaining, does this show him that I value my time with our kids? Does it demonstrate that I’m grateful for him working so that I can stay with them? Does it affirm him as a man who provides for his family?
When was the last time you told your husband thank you?
I mean really told him thank you, not just a nonchalant thanks. Have you ever told him thank you?
Thank you for working so that I can stay at home.
Thank you for your wisdom with our finances to allow this to be possible.
Thank you for providing for our family so that we can have a house and food on our table.
Thank you for working so that we can do fun things together as a family.
Thank you for giving me the desires of my heart.
After my encounter with the working mom, I was convicted about being thankful.
So this past week, I wanted to encourage my husband at work. I sent him a sweet little card of encouragement. It simply said thank you for working and that we are so very proud of you. And you know what? He put that little card right next to his computer so he can look at it whenever he needs a little pick me up.
Later that week, he surprising me by cleaning up the kitchen, putting the dishes away, and bringing me coffee in bed. Those acts of service made me feel loved and appreciated.
Now I’m not perfect, and I still complain and grumble about my day, but I try to be more intentional about being thankful. I know that this season of life is short and in the grand scheme of things- we only get a few short years to mold, shape, and speak truth into our children’s hearts.
I encourage you to write a sweet and simple note to your husband and send it to his office. I bet he will cherish it more than you know and be grateful that you have acknowledged and affirmed his work.
What’s one thing that you’re grateful for?